There was a time, when I was misunderstood, I kept on going explaining myself trying to convince people that I did or act on certain situation with good intentions.
As much as I tried to convince them, if they already committed to misunderstand, there is a very slim chance that they will ever see it otherwise.
People-pleasing occasionally, provides good social relations but if it is done in a regular basis, without noticing, this gives an opportunity to people shaming / bullying upon myself due to their perceptions.
Being too nice gets me being used or pushed around. I couldn't change that part of my life anymore.
What do I do now if I don't start explaining to people who misunderstood me in any negative situation?
1. We can have a rationalised conversation with an open mind;
2. But if it might lead to more negativity, I'll just walk away.
'In the end, she became more than what she expected. She became the journey, and like all journeys, she did not end, she just simply changed directions and kept going' - R.M. Drake
Back to my original question again;
Am I good or am I bad?
Our intentions don't matter.
Perception is a reality.
If people perceive us either way,
It doesn't matter what our intentions are.
Now, what do you perceive me as?